Expanding possibilities

Its just possible that Santa hasn’t fulfilled all your dreams. Perhaps the elves couldn’t wrap up love, freedom, ecstasy, health, world peace and a clean environment, or perhaps they knew we would enjoy and grow through co -creating (or helping to re-create) these things.

If New Year’s resolutions or traditional goal setting ideas don’t help, you might like to try a feminine alternative. All of us have some feminine traits (as well as some masculine traits), and we can all benefit from both approaches for different desires. The masculine approach makes things happen through focus, discipline, doing and control. The feminine approach is based on feeling, allowing, co-operation, incubating and joy. The difference may not be visible to outsiders but it feels different to those involved or affected.

Heart’s Yearning

In the feminine approach, we do not motivate ourselves. Rather, we uncover a desire that already exists in our hearts. Then, rather than look forward to achieving our goal, we feel and taste the desire, welcome and enjoy it’s tender beauty.

Our hearts desires are like seeds or tiny flames. Our job is to nurture the seeds into life or keep the flame burning brightly with our attention and feelings. As in nature, this process needs to happen at its own pace. It is not patience we need, because that implies waiting. The feminine approach is to enjoy the journey for its own sake.

When we trust our hearts and the natural process, we relax, which makes it easier for us to flow with the process and enjoy it all.

Choices

The next stage in the process is to explore our heart’s desire. Allow the details to flow onto the page in words or sketches. If you find the flow drying up, get curious and ask yourself questions, letting the answers pour out of you onto the page.

Clear the way

As you write or read through what you have written, watch your self, your thoughts, body and energy for any reactions. Ask question like ‘what might be challenging about this?’, ‘What if it happened today?’ Imagine having what you want. Make it as real and vivid as possible. The more real it feels, the more inner conflicts are revealed. These are the things that could hinder your progress, so now is the time to resolve and release them.

Embody

If you feel to, you can tune into your heart’s desire and let it move you, or give it your voice. Don’t try to get this right, just let it happen, as if you were dancing or singing for joy or calling out to what you desire, wherever it may be in time or space.

Look at what’s working or has worked

Thinking about what has gone well increases our energy and resourcefulness, helping us play our part well. They also serve as reminders for how things actually work, as opposed to our theoretical ideas.

Ask yourself questions

We all have access to enormous amounts of information, much more than we could ever check through mentally. The best way to access what we want is to ask an open question and then pay attention to what shows up, including feelings. Sometimes clues show up instantly and sometimes we have to live the question for awhile.

The heart test

To tell if what you notice is useful or not, breath it into your heart and notice the response. If still in doubt, look for the option that leads to most joy and adventure, that will likely also lead to the greatest learning.

Share

We have learnt to play safe and keep our dreams private in case we fail. When we trust our heart, it may lead us to sensitively share our desires with others who may energise it with their good wishes, hold your desire for you or support us in some other way.

Tune in daily

Okay, there is discipline of a kind. It is to keep turning up, ideally daily. When you turn up, tune into your heart, bring your attention to your desire and any current questions, rekindle the flame and clear anything that is obstructing your progress. When you tune in also check for any other changes. This ensures we experience an overall improvement in our lives, which is not always the case when we maintain a narrow focus on a goal and due dates.

Enjoy yourself

Another discipline, one some of us find even harder, is to do at some of what brings us joy in our daily, and I mean daily , lives now. If you find that hard, ask yourself what keeps you from your joy? Whatever it is, it may well also keep your from your heart’s desire, so resolve and release it now.

Step out in trust

It is often also helpful to take a step forward, not so much to make something happen as to acknowledge that it already has.

May your heart lead you to your personal paradise.

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