Expanding possibilities

1. Have deeper experiences so know what seeking

Many of us know that being in our hearts leads to a more satisfying experience of life and individually and collectively, we sorely need the feminine, but most of us have only superficial experiences and few, if any, role models of either. The result is that, rather than embodying something radically different and virtually unknown in our culture, we are somewhat less in our heads and somewhat less masculine. If we are to bring these true and distinct alternatives back to this planet, we need first to experience what we are seeking and returning to. The best way to do this is in the company of the few people who embody the divine feminine, such as Amma.

2. Remove layers of protection and armouring

Placing our attention on our heart space or elsewhere in our bodies is a good first step but we will not actually feel much until we remove all that we have used to protect our hearts ever since we realised that the love that we naturally are was unseen, unacknowledged and unwelcome.

3. Stop adding more layers

We are naturally inclined to connect and co-operate with others, which can be challenging in our isolating, competitive culture. This is one reason why many of us continue to compromise our hearts and and add layers of protection around it.

4. Relate to the spirit within

Our primary relationship is with the spirit within ourselves. This is the relationship we have our whole lives, or would have, if we hadn’t stifled the spirit within. In order to relate to that spirit again, we need to give it our undemanding attention, as to a long neglected friend, and whatever it needs to spontaneously move, live and express itself. Since we have so little experience of or references for this aspect of life, we need to pay attention to subtle differences we cannot name or describe, and let them grow in their own way.

5. Explore and express the depths of our hearts and the feminine with others

The feminine is discovered and enjoyed in company with others, and it is wild and unpredictable. In our culture this is challenging, especially when we are single. It takes courage to explore a radically different approach, especially one that has been denied for many generations. We fear being clueless and most other people, even when they want to help, are unable to since they don’t have any real experience of the feminine or relating to the feminine themselves. Additionally, people are busy and, when they share their time with us, we want to ensure they get something out of it. We also have habits of relating and tend to dislike or resist change, so we like our friends and family to be predictable.Hence, to explore the depths of the feminine, we need to do so with fellow explorers.

I have been actively looking for such people and an effective feminine path or approach for about five years.

A way forward

This post is inspired, in part, by a 1:1 session with Roxanna Minnona of Dancing the Divine. Roxanna is available in UK until end Sept. for deep work with women. I would like to attend her weekend workshop but cannot make her dates. If enough women are interested, additional dates will be offerred, so please let Roxanna know if you are interested in alternate dates.

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